Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Child killed on family holiday

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Man (Hector Castro) faces capital murder charge in stepdaughter's slaying

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Be a good father despite divorce

An old post, but still relevant. "In the Kingston Whig Standard, on 7 February 2007, in her article entitled “Be a good father, despite divorce”, Ellie Tesher commented back to “A Beaten Dad” that “Teenagers living with one parent who’s angry and bad mouthing the other usually find that the only way to stay out of the crossfire is to go along with the negative attitude, rather than fight it. The girls will most likely seek you out later, if you maintain contact now in whatever way you can, and do not judge them.” This, I believe, is sound advice given the limited options available under current Family Law legislation. Even if one has court ordered access, in the words of Malcolm Kronby, a certified specialist in family law, “about all you can do is try to cite the custodial parent for contempt of court, in wilfully disobeying the order. The penalty for contempt of court is usually a jail sentence, so the courts are reluctant to impose this.” Nonetheless, I must thank Tesher and A Beaten Dad for bringing this growing problem to the public’s attention. In so doing, I hope that others, including legislators, judges, lawyers, children’s lawyers, court clinic assessors, child psychologists, mediators, social workers, and the public in general, will begin to speak out against the harm being done to children who are forced in this way to chose between their parents. In closing I would echo Tesher’s comment “do not judge” the children. Given that they are being manipulated by one parent to cut off all ties with the other parent, and by extension that parent’s family and friends, they are already carrying a heavy burden of guilt that one can only hope they can cope with."

Child Custody: Consequences of Interference with Custodial Time

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My son really doesn't want to see his dad

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Saturday, June 26, 2010

Anti-Shared Parenting debate in Australia - Fathers' Rights

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A father's love is precious, but bad dads still cause damage (By Adele Horin)

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This is Adele’s second unfavourable article against the law in question in the last three days. Its founded upon reference to a report based on 22 interviews. I guess she has not read the following reference to a report based on 28,000 interviews. http://www.thegovmonitor.com/civil_society_and_democratic_renewal/public_administration/australia-releases-family-law-reforms-evaluation-22482.html

Thursday, June 24, 2010

Current divorce laws breed acrimony

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Law fails children exposed to harm (by ADELE HORIN)

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“The report (by Lesley Laing, senior lecturer in the faculty of education and social work at the University of Sydney) is based on interviews with 22 women, contacted through domestic violence services, who were negotiating parenting arrangements in the family law system. It is the first study that has allowed women experiencing domestic violence to speak about the impact of the 2006 legal changes that put greater emphasis on shared parenting while still maintaining protection in cases of violence.”

I’m not sure that a report based on interviews with 22 individuals should be looked upon as either accurate, or valid.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Children harmed by sole custody, report says

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Divorced B.C. father (Dieter Geesing) kept from seeing child

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“A 2009 study by Edward Kruk at the University of B.C.'s school of social work took a detailed look at the parental roles of 82 Vancouver-area fathers, from all walks of life, post-divorce. Of the 82, 56 reported “lack of access” as their No. 1 problem. Thirty of the 82 fathers reported being completely disengaged from their children's lives.”

A Father’s Role?

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Friday, June 04, 2010

Kids stabbed, mom arrested nine-year-old, infant rushed to hospital

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“A four-month-old baby was fighting for its life Thursday night and its mother was in custody after an attack that sent two other family members to hospital.”

Father (Ash Sakr) reveals heartbreaking international tug-of-love over son

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Tuesday, June 01, 2010

Calgary dad (Jonathan Hope) sentenced for toddler's overdose death

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“Hope, along with his former wife, Lisa Guerin, were found guilty of failing to provide the necessities of life for their daughter, who died in April 2006 after drinking methadone mixed with an orange drink that her father had brought home.”

Winnipeg woman (Shirley Guimond) given conditional sentence in toddler's death

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Grandparent Visitation Disputes: Multigenerational Approaches to Family Mediation

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“Conclusion
The salience of grandparents in their grandchildren's lives is a subject now widely discussed among social scientists. While a heterogeneity of grandparenting roles has been shown to exist, for many grandparents the grandparent-grandchild attachment bond is an important component of their self-identities and a significant factor in their everyday lives. In cases where grandparents have developed close attachments with their grandchildren that are suddenly broken, grandchild absence may eventuate a persisting grief, containing all the major elements of bereavement.
The study reported here points to a variety of circumstances and outcomes for grandparents who at some point experience access difficulties with their grandchildren. There are also certain subgroups of grandparents who have a higher risk of losing ongoing contact. Access difficulties in nondivorce situations are likely to persist; in divorce situations, patemal grandparents represent another high-risk category While some grandparents are able to restore contact subsequent to initial access difficulties, the majority continue to disengage from their grandchildren's lives.”

Keep cases out of court: judge Bernard Warnick

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Judge Bernard Warnik - "There is something essentially tragic about good people incurring often ruinous fees for litigation, arising from nothing more than the divergence in personal lives and the issues to which that can give rise."